Monday, July 1, 2013

Why Do we Choose the People We Choose?

Its been a long time since my last post. I suppose I feel that I have successfully rebuilt myself. I feel I am in control of my life and the lives my children who are growing into wonderful little human beings.

But I am posting because I am having trouble sleeping and I feel that getting things out of my head and into the world might help me sleep.

My exwife is still a drug addict but she is in prison now so our lives have been stable for awhile and as I have suggested I feel that I can deal with anything that life and her can throw at us.

Anyway the purpose of my post is to explore why we choose the people we choose. In my case and in the case of someone I know I feel this was greatly influenced by low self esteem. A feeling that this person is the only person and there is no other choice and then you have babies with that person. Well that of course is just plainly the wrong way to chose a partner.

We do have choice and for a happy life it is vital that we understand that and make our choices knowing that the world has many many wonderful people in it and many of those people can be the right choice and lead to lives of immense happiness, stability and secure love. What an awesome setting that would be to raise children in.

Anyway so what I take from these thoughts is that it is extremely important to do my best to instil in my children a sense of high self esteem and also resilience as well as of course the love and acceptance that I feel that I am already teaching them through living our lives. I want them to be able to move on from the wrong person and be confident in finding the right person.